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Six simple ways for busy families to enjoy time together

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It’s tough being a working mother and making time with family meaningful and productive.

You work all day and the little time you have in the evening and on weekends isn’t always spent the way you want it.  The good news is that everything counts, and it doesn’t have to be complicated or grandiose to get in some great quality time with family.

Some of the following might seem too easy or too simple, but they take little planning (giving you even MORE time) and are easy to execute.  Give them a try and see how your relationships with family members improve.

  1. Go for a walk or bike ride.  Get out of the house, get a little exercise and talk to each other.  It’s so simple and yet so rewarding. Time chatting will do wonders.
  2. Help with homework.  Yes, it gets done, but what’s important is that you’re together. You’re building memories, even if the task is a must-do.
  3. Cook together. You have to make dinner, anyway.  Involving your family gives you time with them while knocking out an essential from your to-do list.  Show them the process.  Explain how to put it all together. It might take a little more time this way, but it’s time well spent.
  4. Do chores together. You’d be surprised how happy a four year old can be with a small broom and dustpan. Children get great satisfaction knowing that they are helping with something that matters.
  5. Draw and cut.  It’s simple art with supplies you already have.  Let the children direct the process while you are there for support and you will yield some great memories.  Display their art or let them play with it and they will remember that they made something special- with you.
  6. Go to a local diner and grab some ice cream or other treat.  While children don’t need treats all the time, it’s a memory making event that can be used every now and then.

It’s all about time together.  Looking back, your children won’t remember if you did something expensive or far away.  They’ll remember that you were there, and that’s what counts.

You Might Be a Yellow If…

You let your kids watch a show so you can enjoy something else.

Maybe it’s a book or craft. Or an extra long shower. Or maybe you just want to use the bathroom alone, today.  Your child’s favorite show can give you all of these, and more!

 

You eat something because it’s delicious, not necessarily because it’s good for you.

Food can be both delicious and nutritious.  You don’t have to eat junk to taste something divine! But let’s be honest.  If it has calories, it better taste good.  

 

Having your flight cancelled doesn’t bother you.

You have to leave Mexico three days later?  Darn, all that extra time at the beach is harsh. But you know how to make the most of it!  Changed plans can always be made great!

 

People think you’re a bouncing ball of silly, even when you’re not.

Of course you’re silly!  But sometimes, you’re really serious about something and people don’t get it.  It’s hard to bring out those deep down feelings (they exist) but it’s much more comfortable to laugh and make light of things.  That does make it difficult when you have to deal with something Not-Fun.

 

You insist on bringing a treat to work meetings.

It’s your turn to bring the treat to your after school teacher meeting and you get so excited! It was your idea to do treats in the first place, and nobody is sad about it.

 

Your favorite way to exercise is dancing.

Running or hip hop?  There is no question which one you would rather do.  Both get you going but can you really live fully without dancing your way through life?  Maybe, but why risk it.

 

You get really, really happy when your shopping trip yields that perfect jacket.

There is it- THE CUTEST jacket in all of creation on the rack in front of you.  You smile.  You touch it.  You think of all of the reasons why you need it. And then you smile again.

 

A hug can fix anything.

Some things in life are not fun.  And some things are downright tragic.  Sometimes you forget you’re a yellow.  But then someone gives you a hug and the world is better again.

 

So can chocolate.

What is it about that rich cocoa that soothes and heals its way down your throat and into your heart?  There’s some science on hormones and stuff, but it’s much more than that.  Chocolate is a wondrous, beautiful thing that should be savored and given to those you adore.

 

Vacations are not just nice, they’re crucial.

It’s like a reset. And without a reset, your awesomeness slowly fades away into boringness and sarcasm.  Yes, vacations are a must and you will gladly use their riveting powers of goodness and delight.

 

As a teenager, you spent money at Claire’s on useless, little see-through plastic items, and they made you really happy.  You also took home your share of scrunchies.  Those small backpacks were a yellow’s favorite!

 

You love smilies and exclamations!!! 🙂 !! 🙂

Because sometimes you’re just really happy!!!  And you need EVERYONE to know it!!! And it only counts if the smile on your face is also on the page.  🙂

 

Being Yellow is fabulous and wonderful and can sometimes get you into trouble.  But a smile and some quick talking can get you out of most tough situations. 😉

Read. My. Lips. (Not my mind)

Mind reading.

 I absolutely stink at mind reading.  And yet, when I need something, what do I do?  I expect that person to read my mind.

The antidote for failed mind reading is asking them for what you want.

You’ve probably heard the phrase, “Ask and ye shall receive…”.  That idea is from the Bible, and people the world over use it, too.  And for good reason- it works!

The  key to any relationship is communication.  And that includes the love of your life, family, coworkers and friends.

So how do we ask? Try the following:

  1. No more mind reading! The two of you do not share a brain.

  2. Know what you want. Details, Babe! Don’t just tell them you want something sweet. Tell them you want dark chocolate, with a hint of mint. No nuts, please!

  3. Understand the person you are asking. What’s their color code color? Understanding that will help you to know how to ask to get what you want.

  4. You deserve it! We’re more than happy to help others get what they want, so why wouldn’t they want the same for you?

  5. Sometimes the answer is NOPE. Pout if you must, but don’t take it personally.

Big or small, ask for what you want.  People want to help you.  They love you, just as you love them.  Give them clear messages so they’ll know how to help you best.

Do you have an experience about asking for what you want?  Tell us about it in the comments, below.

Five things your sweetheart needs to hear you say-

 

Keep your sweetheart happy during Love Month and all year by following these five simple tips.

Red Personality

1. DO compliment them on their outfit.  “That tie looks good with that shirt!” Avoid attaching a negative, such as, “…but are you really going to wear those shoes?”  Keep it positive.

White Personality

2. Your heart has some deep feelings happening in there!  Express them…Be brave!  Be sincere and tell your love the real deal for what’s happening in your heart. “I love you” is not easy to get out… but when you do, there will be no question that you still care.

Blue Personality

3. Be open to new experiences.  Does your sweetheart want to take you out to sushi, but you don’t know if you’ll like it? Try it!  You might love what they have planned! Simply saying, “Okay, I’ll try it.” will give you a great go-to for next time if you do happen to like it.

Yellow Personality

4. If you’re planning an evening out, think of all the details.  Don’t forget about the kids- get a babysitter, already! “We’re leaving at six and Sarah has agreed to watch the kids” will do wonders to put your sweetheart’s mind at ease.

For Everyone

5. BE ON TIME.  Doing so will let your sweetheart know that the plans for the two of you are important and your time with them is important. This one is a “do” and it will add magic to your relationship!

 

What have you said to your love that really makes a difference?  Please share it with us in the comments, below.

 

Being Perfect for the Holidays


This is NOT just for the blues…

Blues, we already know you want every detail to be perfect for your holiday cheer, but perfectionism is something we all face.
Details are just one thing that is part of the package.  We also have to think of money.  Will the guests get along?  Is it going to be fun- not just for me, but for everyone else, too?

We all have to think of budgets this time of year.  Concerned that your significant other will overspend? (Again?) Simply decide (together) what your budget will be, and then trust them to honor it and enjoy what is planned.

But what about the details?  Because, after all, we want the holiday season to be just right.  We all know what amazing holiday decor should look like, what holiday food should taste like, how the the receiver of that perfect gift should light up with delight!  But after all those parties, does it really feel so perfect?

Avoid burnout by deciding what is most important- and stick to that! Will your planning and celebrations give you that time with others to make memories and be joyous? If your answer is yes, consider it a success!

Your holiday can truly be magical if you take care of the most important details and decide not to stress about the rest.

 

Significant Others!

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  November 14th, 2013                                                                                                                                                               COMP Northwest Medical school workshop for  Significant Others or Complements Club was a hit!

 At Beyond Your Color Communications, we are committed to supporting COMP Northwest in succeeding. Since interpersonal communication between student and S.O. (Significant Other)  is a component of a successful medical school experience, we offered this workshop. In exchange for the  ‘no cost’ workshop the SO and medical students are participating in a study on the relationship between knowledge of personality motivation and increased confidence in relationship between the medical student and their significant other. And on increased acceptance of personality limitations and strengths of themselves and on others.

Having fun with core motives

Workshop Participants are having fun discovering the core motivation behind the every personality.

They are enjoying learning to master their understanding of what makes people tick! This discovery is critical in taking control of your life through an understanding what motivates yourself and others to do what you do. We’ve had the pleasure of working with local merchants at our Business Workshop, and offering Training at the College of Osteopathic Medicine of the Pacific Northwest, Pomona, CA and Lebanon, OR campuses.

http://www.westernu.edu/northwest-about

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All Life Is About Relationships

It is a very well-known phenomenon that all life is about relationships. Think about it.
Try Googling Interpersonal Skills, you will receive nearly seven million hits! That is how important it has become in the workplace and in your own personal relationships. What if you could be more effective at understanding or motivating? How much more successful would you be professionally? How much happier and more fulfilled would you be personally?