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Read. My. Lips. (Not my mind)

Mind reading.

 I absolutely stink at mind reading.  And yet, when I need something, what do I do?  I expect that person to read my mind.

The antidote for failed mind reading is asking them for what you want.

You’ve probably heard the phrase, “Ask and ye shall receive…”.  That idea is from the Bible, and people the world over use it, too.  And for good reason- it works!

The  key to any relationship is communication.  And that includes the love of your life, family, coworkers and friends.

So how do we ask? Try the following:

  1. No more mind reading! The two of you do not share a brain.

  2. Know what you want. Details, Babe! Don’t just tell them you want something sweet. Tell them you want dark chocolate, with a hint of mint. No nuts, please!

  3. Understand the person you are asking. What’s their color code color? Understanding that will help you to know how to ask to get what you want.

  4. You deserve it! We’re more than happy to help others get what they want, so why wouldn’t they want the same for you?

  5. Sometimes the answer is NOPE. Pout if you must, but don’t take it personally.

Big or small, ask for what you want.  People want to help you.  They love you, just as you love them.  Give them clear messages so they’ll know how to help you best.

Do you have an experience about asking for what you want?  Tell us about it in the comments, below.

Five things your sweetheart needs to hear you say-

 

Keep your sweetheart happy during Love Month and all year by following these five simple tips.

Red Personality

1. DO compliment them on their outfit.  “That tie looks good with that shirt!” Avoid attaching a negative, such as, “…but are you really going to wear those shoes?”  Keep it positive.

White Personality

2. Your heart has some deep feelings happening in there!  Express them…Be brave!  Be sincere and tell your love the real deal for what’s happening in your heart. “I love you” is not easy to get out… but when you do, there will be no question that you still care.

Blue Personality

3. Be open to new experiences.  Does your sweetheart want to take you out to sushi, but you don’t know if you’ll like it? Try it!  You might love what they have planned! Simply saying, “Okay, I’ll try it.” will give you a great go-to for next time if you do happen to like it.

Yellow Personality

4. If you’re planning an evening out, think of all the details.  Don’t forget about the kids- get a babysitter, already! “We’re leaving at six and Sarah has agreed to watch the kids” will do wonders to put your sweetheart’s mind at ease.

For Everyone

5. BE ON TIME.  Doing so will let your sweetheart know that the plans for the two of you are important and your time with them is important. This one is a “do” and it will add magic to your relationship!

 

What have you said to your love that really makes a difference?  Please share it with us in the comments, below.

 

Being Perfect for the Holidays


This is NOT just for the blues…

Blues, we already know you want every detail to be perfect for your holiday cheer, but perfectionism is something we all face.
Details are just one thing that is part of the package.  We also have to think of money.  Will the guests get along?  Is it going to be fun- not just for me, but for everyone else, too?

We all have to think of budgets this time of year.  Concerned that your significant other will overspend? (Again?) Simply decide (together) what your budget will be, and then trust them to honor it and enjoy what is planned.

But what about the details?  Because, after all, we want the holiday season to be just right.  We all know what amazing holiday decor should look like, what holiday food should taste like, how the the receiver of that perfect gift should light up with delight!  But after all those parties, does it really feel so perfect?

Avoid burnout by deciding what is most important- and stick to that! Will your planning and celebrations give you that time with others to make memories and be joyous? If your answer is yes, consider it a success!

Your holiday can truly be magical if you take care of the most important details and decide not to stress about the rest.

 

Significant Others!

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  November 14th, 2013                                                                                                                                                               COMP Northwest Medical school workshop for  Significant Others or Complements Club was a hit!

 At Beyond Your Color Communications, we are committed to supporting COMP Northwest in succeeding. Since interpersonal communication between student and S.O. (Significant Other)  is a component of a successful medical school experience, we offered this workshop. In exchange for the  ‘no cost’ workshop the SO and medical students are participating in a study on the relationship between knowledge of personality motivation and increased confidence in relationship between the medical student and their significant other. And on increased acceptance of personality limitations and strengths of themselves and on others.

Having fun with core motives

Workshop Participants are having fun discovering the core motivation behind the every personality.

They are enjoying learning to master their understanding of what makes people tick! This discovery is critical in taking control of your life through an understanding what motivates yourself and others to do what you do. We’ve had the pleasure of working with local merchants at our Business Workshop, and offering Training at the College of Osteopathic Medicine of the Pacific Northwest, Pomona, CA and Lebanon, OR campuses.

http://www.westernu.edu/northwest-about

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All Life Is About Relationships

It is a very well-known phenomenon that all life is about relationships. Think about it.
Try Googling Interpersonal Skills, you will receive nearly seven million hits! That is how important it has become in the workplace and in your own personal relationships. What if you could be more effective at understanding or motivating? How much more successful would you be professionally? How much happier and more fulfilled would you be personally?